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There’s nothing quite like the feeling of having a crush on someone.
Whether it’s an old high school friend, a new coworker, or the lead singer of your favorite band, crushes can be so much fun!
Most of us probably stop there too, not pursuing it any further as we have not much of an idea of what else to do. But what do you do if you want to date them? How can you find out if they’re single? And how in the world do you actually ask them out on a date?!
What about thinking about how to manifest your crush?
In this post, I will share some of the actionable steps you can take to make this become a reality rather than something you dream of.
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How do you manifest someone you have a crush on?
It is important to take a minute to talk about free will and its relationship with manifesting. Is it bad to manifest someone specific?
Well, the answer is probably not that straightforward.
It’s not that the universe doesn’t want to help you get your crush, it’s that the universe doesn’t work like that.
Manifesting things into existence is a matter of free will, and since we don’t have any control over someone else’s free will, we can’t force someone to fall in love with us.
But here’s the good news: it doesn’t matter if you can actually make your crush fall for you or not because what really matters is how YOU feel about it.
When we focus on loving ourselves and being grateful for what we already have, we open ourselves up to receiving more happiness and love in our lives. And when we’re open to receiving love from others, it makes it easier for them to love us back!
Read on to find out the steps on how you can make this easier for you.
1. Be very clear about what you want
One of the important keys to manifesting your crush is to be very clear about what you want.
The more specific and detailed you are, the more likely it is that you’ll get what you want.
So for example, if you just say “I want a cute guy,” that’s not going to help!
You have to be more specific than that.
Maybe instead say “I want an athletic guy with blue eyes and brown hair who goes by the name of Derek.”
This makes it easier for the universe to understand your request, and therefore deliver it in a way that makes sense.
It’s important to have a clear vision of what this person looks like, how they act, and what they stand for.
You should also be very specific about what you want them to feel towards you too.
That could include physical attraction, friendship, or even just a sense of connection with someone who understands your life.
2. It’s all about visualization
Visualization is a powerful tool that can be used to manifest your desires.
It’s simply the act of imagining something in your mind and then feeling as if it has already happened.
You can visualize your crush being attracted to you, or even imagine yourself in a relationship with them.
And when you feel confident and happy, it’s much easier to attract what you want into your life!
Try this: Go somewhere private where no one will disturb you (like your bedroom).
Close your eyes, lie down on the floor or bed and relax for about five minutes. Then imagine all the things that make up who this person is—their personality traits, mannerisms, voice tone— imagine they are there in front of you as an astral projection or hologram.
If they have any distinctive physical attributes (such as freckles), see those too!
Imagine being part of a conversation with them; see how natural it feels for both people involved!
When you feel cheerful, joyous, and loving, you will attract events that mirror your energy, according to the Law of Attraction.
Use your imagination to instantly increase your vibration back to love when you’re feeling unhappy about your situation.
3. You have to believe in yourself and your worth
As you start to manifest your crush, you must take a step back and look at yourself.
It is important that you believe in yourself and your worth.
One of the keys to successful manifestation is believing that what you want is possible for you to have.
If you don’t believe it, then how will anyone else?
If someone were to ask me “how do I get my crush?” I would say: first and foremost, believe in yourself!
Believe that he/she is out there somewhere waiting for you as much as they are waiting on their own journey with their own desires and goals.
When you don’t project the right energy by being self-limiting or negative about yourself, you will attract something similar in return.
Surely, you do not want that to happen!
4. You have to be able to laugh at yourself
The biggest thing you have to do is just not take yourself too seriously.
Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself, don’t take things personally (like if he doesn’t text you back), and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself or at others.
You might feel silly sometimes, but it’s all part of the fun!
One way that I’ve learned how to do this is by finding humor in situations that may otherwise seem embarrassing or awkward.
For example, I was on a date once with someone who had a really strong odor coming from his armpits (he wasn’t aware).
Instead of being so self-conscious about it that we couldn’t enjoy ourselves anymore and had an awful date, we laughed about it together and decided that he should put on some deodorant before our next date.
It ended up being pretty funny and he did eventually buy some deodorant, putting a happy ending to this whole situation.
5. Not giving up
Remember, you are not competing with anyone.
Everyone is in the same game, trying to find a partner or friend.
Don’t be so hard on yourself for not doing things perfectly and for making mistakes! It’s all part of the process!
The key is to keep going and keep trying! Don’t give up too easily!
You may have already lost this person’s attention by not trying hard enough to make them notice you. There are some things that you can do to help yourself get noticed by this person.
The first thing is to make sure that you are being yourself around them. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not; just be yourself and let them see how awesome you are!
The second thing is to make sure that when you talk with them, they know that you are interested in what they have to say. Don’t just talk about yourself all the time; ask questions about them and show interest in what they have to say.
The third thing is for sure don’t flirt with other people when talking with your crush because then they won’t think highly of you anymore and will start ignoring you even more than before if this happens often enough!
These are all very important things when it comes down to manifesting a crush on someone new or even an old flame from high school or college days gone by.
6. You should focus on what you bring to the table
It’s important to focus on what you bring to the table and not the things you don’t.
When it comes to relationships, every person is different, so there are no set standards for what makes a good partner.
The best you can do is be yourself, acknowledge your flaws, and be open about them if they come up in conversation.
If your crush asks about something that may be perceived as a weakness of yours (a hobby or interest), don’t be afraid to talk about it!
Even if they don’t share in your passion for whatever it may be.
And let’s face it: some people just won’t.
It’s still great practice at sharing who you are with someone else without fear of judgment or ridicule.
This can help build trust between both parties while also allowing each person an opportunity to grow closer through the common ground on which they can connect later down the road should things work out between them romantically someday soon.
Don’t fall for that old, tired trope about how someone who is truly confident doesn’t care about how they look.
Real confidence isn’t the same as being arrogant, cocky, rude, or mean (or any other negative characteristic you’ve been told it’s like).
It’s not even the same thing as self-esteem—though having a healthy amount of both is certainly helpful!
Instead of thinking about confidence in terms of “not caring,” try thinking instead about having a positive outlook on yourself and your circumstances.
If you’re stuck in traffic or dealing with an annoying coworker at work today—and this experience makes you feel bad about yourself or lowers your mood—then that’s not confidence; that’s negativity!
8. Practice makes perfect!
You may be wondering: How do I practice this? What are the steps to manifesting my crush?
Well, first off, it’s important to remember that you don’t need any fancy rituals or incense—just a good attitude and some time on your hands.
Here is something you can do for a start: Go out more!
Being social is not only fun but also an excellent way of practicing confidence, which in turn makes people more attractive and appealing.
The more confident and charismatic you become, the more attractive others perceive you as being (and vice versa).
So go ahead—get out there! Make new friends! Meet new people!
Get yourself out there into the world!
It doesn’t matter if it’s at a bar or on Tinder; just get yourself out there.
This will help increase self-confidence as well as make it easier for potential crushes to see how amazing they think you are too (if they haven’t already noticed).
Read more: How to Manifest Someone to Think About You in 7 Basic Steps
9. Make use of positive affirmations
Again, we are back to talking about believing.
That’s the secret of manifesting your crush: you have to believe it’s possible.
And that might seem impossible, especially if you’ve been trying to manifest this person for a while and haven’t seen any progress yet.
But the trick is to get yourself into a state of mind where you can truly believe it can happen and then go ahead and make it happen!
An effective way to do that is through positive affirmations.
If you’re not familiar with them, positive affirmations are positive statements about your goal that you repeat to yourself over and over again until they become ingrained in your subconscious mind.
They’re kind of like an internal pep talk that can help build up your confidence as you work towards achieving what seems like an impossible dream at first glance.
To start using them in your life, form your own affirmation statement that is highly relevant and specific to what you want to manifest, in this case, your crush.
It could be something like this: “I am in a loving relationship that makes me feel safe, loved, and happy”. Or check out our article about love affirmations for more inspiration.
The more often you say these things, the more likely they’ll start feeling true for YOU instead of just being words on paper!
Read more: How to Pray to The Universe + 21 Powerful Manifestation Prayers
10. Letting go and detach yourself
It may seem counterintuitive to detach yourself from the idea of having a crush, but it’s actually the most important part of manifesting your crush.
When you’re longing for someone or something, it’s easy to get caught up in the fantasy of them being perfect for you.
That’s where things start to get messy: because when you think about how much better things could be if only they were there, instead of getting them into your life, you’re focusing on what isn’t happening yet.
And that doesn’t work!
Instead, try thinking about how nice it would be if you could stop thinking about this person.
If they were gone from your mind completely? How would that feel? What would that allow you to focus on instead? When we let go of our attachments and expectations, we can move forward into a new reality where anything is possible!
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You can find love when you are ready
You can find love when you are ready. You can also find it when you’re not ready, or even looking for it.
If this sounds like a strange or even conflicting statement, let me explain.
You can indeed manifest your crush in some circumstances and not in others, but there is one condition that must be met before any manifestation will occur: You have to be open to receiving love (or whatever else it is that you want).
This might sound obvious, but being open means more than just having an open heart; it means having an open mind as well—and that can be harder than simply opening your heart!
If your mind is closed off because of past hurts or disappointments, then no amount of wishing and hoping will help bring the person who’s right for you into your life—even if they’re right next door!
On the other hand, if we are only partially closed off due to past hurts or disappointments (as most of us probably are), then our soulmates may still come knocking on our door one day, but only after we’ve learned how important it is for us to trust ourselves enough so that we’re willing to let them in.
Read more: Is Manifesting Dangerous? Honest Opinion
How do I make my crush obsessed with me?
There is no surefire way to make your crush get together with you, let alone obsess over you, and I personally think that is way too extreme a thought to have.
Rather, you would want your crush to notice you and see the qualities that would attract her/him to you.
Here are a few tips:
First, catch your crush off guard by doing something unexpected and kind. For example, if you notice that they have a favorite coffee shop, go there and buy them a drink! This will show them that you’re thoughtful and kind.
Second, keep your eyes open for chances to show them how much you care. If they’re having a rough day or need help with something, just be there for them without expecting anything in return. The more time they spend around you, the more they’ll realize how amazing of a person you are!
Finally, remember that it takes time! Don’t pressure yourself into thinking that if things don’t work out right away then they won’t ever happen—this isn’t the case at all! Just take things slow and enjoy getting to know each other better over time—you’ll both see results eventually!
Read more: How to Manifest a Lottery Win? 9 Steps to Boost Your Chances
Can I manifest my crush to text me?
This is very much the same as the steps you should take in the sections above. Be specific about what you want and let the Universe do its job.
An additional technique you could try is to try manifesting something on paper or try ou the mirror technique for manifesting. It is a clearer way for some people to understand the process and make it work more effectively for them.
In conclusion: How to manifest your crush?
I hope these tips have been helpful in your quest to find love.
Remember, it’s all about how you present yourself and that’s something you can control.
Most of the work is really done inside your mind, and you need to take the time to get attuned to it for it to work.