Have you ever noticed that the people in your life who are the most unhappy are also the ones that are harshest on themselves and others? This might have something to do with codependency and how it affects people.
In today’s post, I will share more about codependency affirmations and how they can be one of the best tools to help you get over this hump.
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What is codependency?
Co-dependency is an acquired trait that can be passed down from generation to generation.
It is an emotional and behavioral disorder that interferes with a person’s capacity to have a happy, healthy relationship.
Because people with codependency frequently develop or maintain one-sided, emotionally harmful, and/or abusive relationships, and it is also characterized as “relationship addiction.”
Years of studying interpersonal relationships in alcoholic households led to the discovery of the disorder roughly ten years ago.
Co-dependent behavior is learned through observing and mimicking the behavior of other family members.
Codependency can take many forms and have varying degrees of intensity.
It stems from a lack of self-awareness and weak boundaries, as well as an unwillingness to express oneself or say no.
Signs you are codependent
Are you codependent? If you are, you may feel a need to help others who seem unable to help themselves.
Here are a few tell-tale signs to look out for, whether in yourself or a close one:
- Self-love and healthy self-esteem are typically lacking in codependents.
- Worrying about everyone’s worries and attempting to resolve all of the difficulties in their immediate environment.
- Codependents frequently employ people-pleasing as a strategy to guarantee that others like them and that they do not offend others.
- Many persons who suffer from codependency want to be needed.
- Empaths are more likely to become codependents than other people.
To explain further, you may have a hard time expressing your feelings or even recognizing that you have any. Because of this, you may bottle up emotions and feel like no one understands you.
You might not be sure who you are without someone else in your life. You may feel like the only way to be happy is to be with someone else.
You could have an intense fear of being abandoned. This might mean that you put the needs of others before your own. You might have difficulty leaving relationships, even if they are unhealthy or abusive.
If any of these signs sound familiar, it’s important that you reach out for help to make sure that your codependency doesn’t interfere with your life or the lives of those around you.
There are plenty of resources out there for codependents recovering from addiction, but if your codependency is not linked to addiction, talk therapy can help guide you toward healthy relationships and boundaries.
How to Use Affirmations for Codependents to Help With Recovery
If you’re suffering from codependency and are trying to recover, you likely have a lot of negative thoughts about yourself.
For example, you might think that you’re weak for allowing someone else to control your life, or that you’re worthless because no one actually loves you.
These codependency thoughts can trigger emotions like shame and sadness, which are only going to make it harder for you to recover.
But by using affirmations for codependents, you can replace these negative thoughts with positive ones that will help you get on the path to recovery. Here are a few examples:
- I am in control of my decisions
- I do not need to please everyone in order to be loved
- I am capable of doing things without help
- I am worthy of love and respect
- I can do anything I put my mind to
Codependents often feel like they are victims and cannot control their lives.
Positive affirmations help by changing the negative way codependents think about themselves into something more positive and life-affirming, which can help them begin to practice self-care instead of constantly worrying about others.
How to use affirmations effectively?
- Identify the negative thoughts that you wish to get rid of or something that you wish to manifest. Affirmations work in both scenarios, but you need to be clear about what you want. This post about learning how to write affirmations might help you out.
- Use the following list as a source of inspiration and guidance. You may use any affirmation as it is, or modify it to make it your own. The key thing here is that the affirmations MUST resonate with you and is a statement you truly believe in.
- Pick out at least 2 affirmations and start using them.
- Begin a routine of practicing at least twice a day of reciting the affirmations with each session lasting 3-5 minutes. Repeat each one 10-15 times daily. You can do this in front of a mirror, speak out loud, or do it in your mind. Do not skip any sessions. I usually do this each morning when I wake and before I go to bed.
- Download and print out your own affirmations worksheet below to use as a guide for manifestation. Stick it on your mirror/journal/vision board, or anywhere you can easily access it throughout the day so that it can serve as a constant reminder to you.
- Alternatively, you can check out our Daily Positive Affirmations Cards which are designed and organized for you. All you need to do is print them and take them everywhere you go!
- Be patient! It usually takes a month or so to see changes.
List of Codependency Affirmations For Recovery and Healing
In the section below, you will find a huge list of positive affirmations that you can use daily for overcoming codependency. I also encourage you to send this to a friend who might be in need to give them the much-needed support they deserve.
Make use of these sentences to form your own mantras for codependency and hopefully, you can say codependency no more very soon!
They are powerful as it is, but you can simply use them as references to form your own affirmations and treat them as self-validation reminders, each and every day.
- I am a good person.
- God loves them more than I do.
- I am committed to my own personal path.
- I am not confused about my own emotions.
- I will only give others what I can and not what makes me tired or bitter.
- I have to trust my gut; it has not let me down so far.
- I am not selfish for putting myself first.
- I am flexible, friendly, and fulfilled.
- Just because I feel an emotion doesn’t mean I have to act on it.
- I will not lower my standards to please someone else’s expectations of me.
- I am a spirited and spiritual person.
- I don’t have to accept advice from people I don’t trust.
- Saying no is a perfectly acceptable answer.
- If I love myself, that does not mean that I can’t love others well.
- I am allowed to find new friends or a partner that fit my positive and healthy lifestyle.
- I let go and let God.
- I am a radiant expression of the Goddess energy/Great Spirit/Christ within.
- I know a new sense of belonging.
- I deserve to be loved and cared for
- I allow the divine to support me in letting go of responsibility for others.
- I am not weak because I need therapy or psychiatric medication.
- I am allowed to get others involved to help me leave an unhealthy relationship.
- I feel blessed to have many opportunities in my life.
- I am worthy of love and affection.
- I choose not to let the negative experiences dictate how I feel about myself.
- I let go of any shame that keeps me in a caretaking role with others.
- It is not my job to make others feel better.
- I am stronger than these emotions!
- I can trust my experience of the situation.
- My happiness is important, I deserve to be loved the way that I love others.
- I will not shame myself for doing what I thought was best at the moment.
- I speak my truth at all times.
- I can’t control my fate, but I can do my best to make it amazing.
- I see their actions clearly and I don’t deserve that.
- I take responsibility for my actions; not yours.
- I don’t have to mask my pain; I can show it.
- I trust my ability to make effective decisions.
- I am moving on. I will not let anyone who has hurt me keep me back anymore.
- I am allowed to answer the phone when I want to.
- I am accepting of others and myself.
- Today, I love myself.
- Therapy is a good option if I need expert advice to get emotionally unstuck.
- I will try my best to love others, but it’s not my responsibility to make them feel loved.
- I don’t judge anyone, including me.
- No matter what happens, I will get through this. I am strong enough to do it.
- The past does not determine my future – I do!
- I will not tolerate abuse from others. I have a voice and I will speak up for myself.
- Every day I am becoming a new person, one who is strong and healthy.
- I accept people for who they are, but I also know that it is not healthy for me to let them stay the same.
- I am open to God’s will for me.
- It’s okay to think of myself first.
- I am restored to sanity.
- I am glad I was born and I love being alive.
- I don’t have to give a 100% to every person in my life.
- I don’t have to protect everyone from getting hurt.
- I am confident.
- I deserve good people in my life.
- I am not stuck and I have choices.
- I am looking for a healthy, loving relationship. I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve.
- I do not have to constantly consider the emotions of others.
- There is no reason to worry.
- I will not apologize or accept false guilt, when I didn’t do anything wrong.
- I let go of my judgment of others.
- I am worthy of kind, patient, selfless, and amazing friends.
- My emotions don’t scare me.
- I have the ability and choice to leave friendships and relationships that don’t work for me.
- The entire Universe Loves me, serves me, nurtures me, and wants me to win.
- I will not ignore nor dismiss my pain because I understand their pain too.
- I am not crazy for wanting to take control of my life.
- I deserve to be respected by the people I love.
- I can experience happiness without a partner or friend.
- I am physically and emotionally healthy.
- I am learning to love myself.
- I am not responsible for the emotions of others.
- Every day I am closer to being the person I want to be.
- I am on the right track even if I feel confused.
- My fears are the places within me that await my Love.
- I have valuable opinions and thoughts.
- I deserve to have people in my life that encourage me.
- I did it for the right reason, so I don’t need to second guess my intentions constantly.
- My heart is open.
- I’m a Higher Powered person.
- Even though there are people that pass through my life, I am the only constant in it. My actions always matter.
- I am more than the opinions and thoughts of others.
- I will not tiptoe around the feelings of others.
- I am able to establish and uphold healthy boundaries.
- I love myself and naturally attract loving relationships into my life. I send love to my fears.
- If I’m a good person and trust God, the right people will remain in my life.
- I am not to blame for their bad behaviors.
- I am relaxed.
- I am self-affirming.
- Being independent is not a sign of weakness but one of strength.
- I am open, honest and willing.
- I am rooted in my own values.
- I am allowed to feel all emotions and it is okay to express them as long as no one gets hurt as a result.
- I will only have relationships with people who care about my happiness.
- I am no longer ashamed of who I am or where I have come from because it has made me into the amazing person that I am today.
- I will fight to see myself as pure, safe, and loved.
- I am grateful for my life, each and every day.
- I will try my best to avoid being with an explosive and argumentative person in the future.
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- I develop relationships with others based on equality, intimacy, and balance.
- What’s wrong is wrong. I don’t need to excuse their behavior, they can change or apologize.
- I love and approve of myself, and live my life according to what I know is right for me.
- I am grateful for what I have and who I am.
- My opinions are valid. I refuse to be silenced by anyone who wants to abuse or silence me.
- I release taking responsibility for your happiness.
- I will not apologize for my own emotions.
- I may have been through some bad times but that does not mean that my life is over. There are good things waiting for me ahead.
- I do not need alcohol or drugs to improve my mood.
- I can explore avenues to feel better even when my support system is unavailable.
- I am allowed to have my own perspective even if I understand their side of the issue.
- I don’t have to meet the needs of the people around me.
- I chose to take care of myself.
- I won’t punish myself for anything anymore.
- I release control over anyone.
- My happiness comes from within me. I do not need anyone else to make me happy.
- I move towards the highest version of myself.
- I don’t have to second guess my decisions.
- I have the power to change my life for the better, and I am finally starting to do it.
- I will recover.
- I have the support of caring people.
- I am a valued person. I am worthy of love. I do not need to be with anyone who hurts me.
- No one is worth sacrificing myself for.
- My mind is a safe place and I don’t have to run away from my thoughts.
- I don’t have to understand my feelings for them to be valid.
- Other people’s opinions don’t affect me.
- I am not responsible for the pain of others.
- I release any responsibility for your wholeness.
- I am able to express my feelings openly, directly, and calmly.
- If someone is toxic or abusive, they are not healthy for me.
- I am now celebrating life, having fun and enjoying myself.
- The negative perspectives and thoughts that others have about me are inaccurate.
- My true friends will always try to think the best of me and see the gold within me.
- I don’t have to talk to anyone that makes me feel uncomfortable.
- I will write down what I know is true about myself and the situation to stay anchored.
- If someone wants to take care of me, they will treat me with respect.
- I am breathing easy and my body is light and relaxed.
- I can say “NO.”
- I alone am responsible for my happiness and well-being.
- Sometimes we attract people who need our help, but having compassion for them does not mean we have to take care of them.
- I accept the imperfection in humans.
- There is no need for me to explain my own decisions.
- I deserve healthy, loving relationships with people that respect me. I will not settle for less than this again.
- I express feelings of love and appreciation to my spouse, partner, friends and family members.
- All of my experiences are opportunities to gain more power, clarity, and vision.
- My standards for relationships and friendships are high because I give my whole heart.
- I do not have to prove that my intentions were pure to myself or anyone. God sees my heart.
- I value myself; that is why my standards are high.
- My emotions are like a wave, they will come and go swiftly.
- I experience my own pain and feelings instead of yours.
- I will not worry about losing the people that love me.
- I don’t have to anticipate the needs of everyone around me.
- I do not have to help in easing anyone’s pain If I’m feeling emotional.
- I am allowed to make a mistake and re-adjust how I behave next time.
- It’s okay if someone doesn’t want me, there are people who will.
- I will accept help.
- I will express my feelings.
- Every day I love myself more and more.
- I can do anything on my own.
- I release any beliefs that keep me from being authentic.
- I am allowed to move on.
- I have good friends.
- I experience joy.
- I will forgive but I will never forget the lessons that people have taught me. This will make me stronger and wiser.
- I will not take responsibility for the arguments that others caused.
- I deserve someone who treats me with compassion, kindness, and love.
- Love will come to me and I don’t have to manipulate anyone to get it.
- I can make decisions without having to explain myself to anyone.
- I have a right to my feelings and you have a right to yours.
- I am happy and there are great experiences waiting for me.
- I am allowed to say NO without being questioned and harassed.
- My needs are important. I deserve to be listened to and taken care of.
- Abundance is my natural state of being and I accept it now.
- It is not my job to fix others.
- It is okay to set boundaries.
- Healthy relationships are possible for me!
- I let go of any fear that keeps me from having a voice.
- I don’t have to talk to someone when I don’t want to.
- You are accountable for you and I am accountable for me.
- I have the power within myself to achieve anything that I desire.
- I will not force anyone to be there for me.
- I don’t have to think of others’ emotions.
- I deserve better. I will find someone who loves me how I deserve to be loved.
- I am not responsible for anyone’s happiness but my own.
- I am a good listener and friend.
- I let go of the past and allow myself to move forward into a beautiful future.
- This person does not make me happy nor can they connect with me on a deeper level. It is time to move forward and focus on my growth.
- I am allowed to disagree with someone’s opinion or advice.
- I have fun in my life.
- I will drop my shoulders, unclench my jaws, and relax.
- I’m not stuck.
- Abuse, whether physical or emotional, is wrong. I will stand up for myself and others that are being oppressed.
- I deserve to experience happiness and hope.
- I am not afraid to be the real me.
- My confusion and highly intense emotions will simmer down soon.
- I am not disobedient because I chose my own path.
- I do not need to prove myself to anyone. If someone is unwilling to trust or respect me, why should I waste my time trying to win their favor?
- I come first to myself.
- I am the co-creator of my life, I am fully involved in co-creating my life in an exciting, joyous, and harmonious way.
- I am growing stronger and healthier as I continue to move forward in my life.
- I am not alone. There are people that care about meeven if they are not showing it at the moment.
- I let go of the belief system that I must take care of those close to me.
- Even though it may not seem like it now, the relationship is over.
- I will stretch my arms and release the tension in my shoulders.
- I am allowed to stop sharing personal information with people that judge me.
- I can embrace their truth, my emotions, and the truth in love.
- I trust myself.
- No one can make me happy unless I feel like it myself first.
- I do not control the actions of others.
- I am always in the right place at the right time, successfully engaged in the right activity.
- I am not weak.
- I am letting go of using my relationship as a crutch so that I can grow stronger and healthier on my own.
- I did my best in that situation.
- I am not confused and I know how to handle this situation accurately.
- I can’t prevent fate from happening, so I will do my best and let life take it from there.
- The past has nothing to do with me – only how I decide to let it affect me does.
- It is okay for me to allow others to deal with the consequences of their actions. I don’t have to fix it.
- I am releasing all the tension from my body.
- I am hard at work on my dreams and goals.
- I deserve a healthy and loving relationship.
- I am aware your pain allows you to grow.
- My sexuality is grounded in genuine intimacy and connection.
- I will respect their reality, but I will request that my reality is respected too.
- I don’t chase; what belongs to me will one day find me.
- I am not afraid of challenging situations.
- I will not isolate and drown myself in self pity.
- I am radiantly beautiful and vibrantly healthy and Joyously alive.
- God wants me to be happy, healthy, Loved, and successful.
- Loving myself is just the first step of being healthy in body and soul.
- I let go of the thought that I am acting selfishly by taking care of my needs.
- I am constantly bettering myself.
- Today, I choose happiness.
- I respect myself and my boundaries.
- My friends, sponsor and Higher Power are there for me.
- Pain is a part of life; I embrace it and learn to live with it.
- I can set limits and boundaries with people that I don’t want to have total access to my time, money, feelings, talents, and physical space.
- I can love you without taking responsibility for your happiness.
- I do not hurt people on purpose.
- I recognize my good qualities.
- I can trust my gut when it tells me something isn’t right.
- My life is precious and valuable, just as much as anyone else’s.
- I will expel toxic people from my life.
- I don’t have to worry.
- The important thing is to protect me and not always others.
- There are good things waiting for me in all areas of my life so why should I be stuck in this rut?
- I will treat my self kindly and do something nice for myself as I calm down.
- I trust my intuition and make decisions that are best for me. I am safe.
- This relationship is not healthy for either of us. I am leaving and never looking back.
- I will release my shame and guilt for God to heal.
- I am more than what others think of me.
- I am capable of being in a loving relationship.
- I respect my feelings and do not bottle them up just to keep someone else happy.
- Thank you father for guiding them and helping them to release their burden.
- My happiness does not depend on other people.
- I am not a bad person because I realized that they’re broken.
- I am only responsible for my actions.
- The Light within me is creating miracles in my life here and now.
- My relationships are with equal partners.
- Every day and in every way, I am getting better and better.
- It is okay if I make mistakes; I’m only human.
- No one can tell me what to do with my own body – it is mine and mine alone.
- I am not responsible for your thoughts and feelings.
- I will allow my support system to be there for me in a healthy way.
- I know myself best in this world.
- I do not need to be scared or ashamed of my feelings.
- I live with pure intentions.
- I can choose myself and love others well too.
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